Father’s Day 2005 came and went like all others. My brother and I did the obligatory (but heartfelt!) card:

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Who knew 41 days later that my Father would be dead.

 

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10 years later, it’s still a shock although the crushing depression that ensued for the year after his death has certainly eased. Thinking back on that time, I recall days when I could hardly breathe, let alone get out of bed and go to work. Thankfully that has receded and now my sadness is typically brought on by situations where I think how much Dad would enjoy the moment (such as seeing my brother as a father). He would so love being a grandpa.

You’ve probably read this quote from Tim Cook:

Life is fragile. We’re not guaranteed a tomorrow so give it everything you’ve got.

 

Why travel with an aging parent?

Travel is a marvelous opportunity for new and exciting experiences. Solo travel is a great way to explore the world (having done it myself), however, I do find it a blast to share adventures with a loved one. Although our parents may not be top of mind, understand that every day your parent is alive, they are closer to their last day. That may sound morbid, but it’s the harsh reality all of us face with the passing of time.

If not this trip, when?

From the 300,000+ miles I’ve traveled with my mother, I can confirm that vacationing together can result in some of the best memories you’ll ever have with him or her. Traveling with an aging parent is your opportunity to connect on a deeper level that no amount of phone calls will afford. As an adult, you can appreciate what they did for you when you were growing up while also exploring their hopes and dreams (and how you can help check off a few more items on their bucket list). Don’t miss that opportunity.

Remember you could lose someone who matters at any moment. So love more fiercely, love more freely – not because there is nothing to lose, but because everything can always be lost.

I miss you Daddy, today and always.